Fathers Day

Well we managed to survive both Fathers day and Mother's day. Now it's just a matter of getting through the next couple of weeks and getting moved. It's hard to celebrate holidays when a part of you is missing. We got through, but it's just that, getting through. I continue to work on my dissertation and continue to be amazed at what people write about the process of grief. They don't understand. People say things to you, we haven't heard a lot of it, but we have talked to others that have heard it. Telling people that it's been (insert what ever length of time here) and they should get over it and move on. How do you move on when a piece of your heart is gone. We hear about someone's child dieing and our hearts just break, it doesn't matter how old the person or how old their child is.
At the same time, through all of this, I think about Chris, the time we spent with him and the time we have spent trying to honor him. I would say mourning, because that is part of it, but what Chris did in his life, the people that he touched, the difference he made makes us want to honor him. From here on out that is what we are trying to do, honor our son, and make sure that his legacy is one that continues. Remember the good times, the love and use those memories to get through the bad days.